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Mindful Ways to End Your Year
It’s the third year in a row now that I am setting aside time to complete my year. I see it as a beautiful ritual that supports me so I can start the New Year mentally strong. I will share some of the things I personally learned and give you a couple of powerful questions to ask yourself so that you also can achieve completion in 2018.
The most important thing I learned last year was that I needed to clean up my emotional and physical baggage if I wanted to feel healthier and lighter.
The reason we often are stuck is that we’re holding on to unresolved arguments, resentments, postponements, incomplete relationships or “stuff” lying around in our physical space.
“Stuckness” is always caused by “incompletions.”
The best way to close your year is to take a look at your incompletions and to aim for completion wherever you feel stuck. Then work on celebrating yourself and your accomplishments.
At the end of the year I choose a place that I find inspiring, and I go through what I don’t want to bring with me into the New Year.
Incompletions are all the things that you struggle with to let go of or make a decision about. It’s everything, that holds you back from really expanding and shining.
I also work to celebrate myself by making a list of ten things I did to make sure there was movement in my life.
Very often we look back and focus on what wasn’t good enough in our lives. We pay more attention to the deficiencies than to the great things we have accomplished.
When we start focusing on the good things in our lives, it’s easier to see how we can create more of it.
Ten things I did to make sure there was movement in my personal and professional life during 2018:
1. I often used alternative medicine. I suffered from all different kind of physical symptoms this year. Growing up in a surrounding that was skeptical toward alternative medicine, I have always turned to a classical doctor for help. This year, alternative medicine didn’t just save me from having surgery, but also helped me in other difficult health situations.
2. I stopped being overly dependent on the opinions of others when it comes to my new career path. In 2017, I still listened a lot to other people’s opinions about how I should lead my workshops and how I shall work as a Life Coach. This year, I gained more trust in my intuition – and myself – which lead to my best year so far in my new business.
3. Getting a Shakti mat https://shaktimat.de/# to support relaxation before going to sleep. I was interviewed by a company, which sells those acupressure mats in Germany, and I started to use the mat myself. I finally created a bedtime routine!
4. Created my own retreat by going by myself to Thailand for two weeks. After a winter with much illness, I decided that I needed to go for a retreat. Usually, the retreats have a schedule that started in the early morning, which I didn’t have the strength for this time. I found a place on the island Koh Phangan where I could combine reading books in the hammock and joining workshops whenever I felt like it.
5. Stopped eating products with lactose. This was a revelation! So many years of problems with my intestines, and I had no idea that lactose was part of the problems.
6. Went to a festival where I joined the workshop “Wild Women Dance” and learned that dancing always leads me back to my creativity. I need movement – and preferably free and wild movement – to access my inner powerful core.
7. Read the book “The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brené Brown, which helped me work with my perfectionism. I used to obsessively care for every detail while working on my website or preparing a party. This year, I went from a stressed out perfectionist to a bit more relaxed “better done than perfect” attitude.
8. Letting go of my wish for a second child. This has been a long process and this year when I turned 45, I was ready. I gathered a group of friends who helped me complete this process and peacefully let go of my wish and then celebrate a new phase of my life.
9. Better real than liked by everyone. I finished my third year as a student at the IGG Institute in Berlin, a Gestalt Therapy School. Far too many times during my first two years, I let fear of not being liked interrupt an opportunity for deeper connection with my peers and teachers. I was left exhausted. This year, I’ve learned to trust my true self and let almost every side of me be seen and expressed.
10. Believed in miracles. One of my biggest challenges this year was to get my daughter into a bilingual school where all her friends were going to go to. We were on the waiting list until three days before the school started when we finally got a spot!
Create Your Own List
What can you celebrate yourself for this year? What made you feel there was movement in your life? Write a list and discover how you have grown personally and professionally.
The Most Important Thing I learned this Year
It’s also important to look at what did not work well for you during the year, but then it’s equally crucial that you focus on what you can learn from it. This answer will always move you forward.
This year I struggled to choose the most important thing I learned because I learned so much! It has been one of my most challenging years in a long time and through all the breakdowns I manage to go through, I was gifted with many beautiful insights. The most important one is:
I can set healthy boundaries and still be a loving person.
Lately, I’ve seen that in most situations when I don’t feel good, it’s about me not setting clear boundaries. Therefore I worked a lot on setting healthy boundaries this year.
If you – like me – have grown up with the belief that “it’s better to agree so that you avoid conflict”, then you understand how much work it takes to create a new and healthier belief.
It has by far been one of the most challenging issues I’ve worked on since I started to work on my personal development, but also the most rewarding.
My life with healthy boundaries feels much lighter, and I am full of gratitude toward myself for the courage to say no to what drains me and yes to what lifts me up.
Read more about how to set healthy boundaries here: https://katarina-stoltz.com/blog/set-boundaries-take-control-life/
Here is a list of questions to work on so that you can close your year. You can do it alone or why not do it with a friend?
Powerful Questions to Ask Yourself to Achieve Completion
What was your hardest challenge? What did you learn from it?
What did you regret doing/ not doing? What did you learn from it?
Which activities/situations drained you?
Which was your best moment?
What were you most proud of?
Which activities made you feel really alive?
What else is there that needs completion?
What was the most important thing you learned during 2018?
Answering those questions will enable you to make space in your life for new creations in 2019. As long as we are stuck in old habits that don’t serve us any longer, or are stuck in resentments or regrets, we don’t move forward.
“The secret of change consists in concentrating one’s energy to create the new, and not to fight against the old” – Dan Millman
When you wish to get support so you can work on completing your past year and creating 2019, I offer one-on-one coaching sessions either at my practice in Berlin or over Skype. Schedule a free of charge consultation to see how we could work together: https://calendly.com/katarinastoltz
Wishing you much joy with completing your year and I’m looking forward to sharing many more insights and inspiring questions with you during 2019!
Hello, I’m Katarina Stoltz, a life coach and psychotherapist helping international professionals prioritise their well-being so they can achieve fulfillment without burning out.
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